Yet, another usual morning and the loud
irritating buzzing sound of the alarm successfully ruin my dreamworld and fill
my screen with a bunch of notifications as it automatically connects to the
Wi-Fi. I somehow manage to turn it off with one eye open and start scrolling
through the notifications. After switching among a few Instagram stories, I
keep my phone aside and start staring the ceiling as my head is filled with
numerous distracting thoughts.
Why have we all become, the way we have
become? Why is it all about showing off and proving ourselves better than
everyone else? Is there any fruitful purpose behind it? Or it’s always been the
same and has become detectable only because of the so-called distance breaker
social media?
Willingly or unwillingly, knowingly or
unknowingly, at some point, we find ourselves surrounded by or in the middle of
this unwanted and worthless race. The race of comparison and winning it by
proving ourselves better than anyone else we know in every possible way.
Let it be grades, attire, appearance, profession, lifestyle, loved-ones or as
if this was not enough, it’s even spread to Facebook or Instagram posts,
stories, selfies and what not! Sure, there’s no harm in having goals or aiming
for something great, but only when it’s done for ourselves. As said in the
well-known poem – the light in the heart – "never stop dreaming" and quoted by
Walt Disney – "if you can dream it, you can do it", dreams are fulfilled by
hard work and determination, not by sharing it on meaningless social media.
So what if he spends more on clothes and
you on food? So what if somebody’s Instagram is more interesting than yours? So
what if she has a bigger car than yours? So what if he’s pursuing medicine but
you’re in arts? So what if she prefers perfections but you like staying
naturally imperfect? Humans are meant to be the perfectly distinctive and
imperfect creatures. For instance, a math teacher asked the students to get
the result of 9 by summation of any two one-digit numbers. Many students
answered it the different way. The teacher wrote all the possibilities on the
blackboard. Then, she asked them to figure out which is the correct one. All of
them were shouting, ‘mine is correct! ’At last, she explained not only the sum
but the golden rule of life. She quoted that it does not matter what you do in
life, how you do it, what is the purpose of doing it. But your journey and the
destination should be the ultimate one. Everyone was amazed how is it possible.
How can be that number 9 is the exact answer for everyone? She beautifully
summed it up in the single sentence that we all must work to contribute to
the society. That must be the only purpose of human existence.
The point is, every one of us is seeking
that same bliss which we think will come from the materialistic achievements
and bragging about them. But guess what? Though the ultimate destination for
all of us is the same, the ways to reach there for all of us are different. We
truly are not obligated of following any of those so-called standards, rather
choose what pleases us. The priorities may vary and so may the choices we make,
all that needed is to be proud of them without comparing them and moving
forward. We all need to free ourselves from the invisible cage where we do things
just for the sake of letting somebody else down, we spend our efforts,
opportunities and even the whole lives in there but don’t reach anywhere. Just
live your life as if no one is judging you. It is completely acceptable to
make mistakes. But do not forget to learn from it. That’s what human race
does.
It’s completely all right choosing those
comfy pajamas over that fancy short dress. It’s okay if you have fewer
followers but a bunch of real friends. All that’s required is that sense of
acceptance towards our own lives, priorities and the pride for the decisions we
take for the sake of making our own lives better. Those fake validations which
we seek aren’t taking us anywhere.
We all were created differently and were left in different kind of our own worlds with brains, not to imitate each-other but to shape our worlds as we want by and for ourselves. Let's try and start looking at the world through our own lens and admire how different but beautiful our journeys can be. :)
